Which Marriage Advice Should You Listen to?

Which Marriage Advice Should You Listen to? When it comes to marriage advice, it seems everyone has an opinion. It doesn’t seem to matter how much people know about your relationship, how little they know about the circumstances surrounding the issue you are having with your partner, everyone you know – and even strangers who just happen overhear you discussing the problem – will tell you exactly what you should do. The problem is, they are issuing this marriage advice but only know half the story. Within any marriage there is a history. It’s the history that develops over time when you live with someone. Perhaps your partner is saying that he doesn’t want to go to the dinner party …

Misplaced Allegiance

Misplaced Allegiance Direct Answers – Column for the week of June 23, 2003 I am male, 30, married for seven years. I have two small children. The past several years of married life have been trying. My wife and I fight a lot, always about money, work, or sex. We used to be very passionate, in a shy sort of way, but that has all but vanished. My wife attributes it to my work ethic. If I was home more, she says, she would be more romantic. I am not sure I agree. It seems the more I am around the more bored I become with her. I still love her, but there is a giant void. Now the bigger …

How to Survive your Spouse’s Affair

How to Survive your Spouse’s Affair In order to restore a relationship after your spouse has had an affair you may try the ploy: “But I’ve changed, I’m a different person.” And your behavior may have actually changed – some of the time. You mistakenly may continue to accommodate in different ways or change your behavior to fit your perception of what he/she wants. Here are some problems with this strategy: You, most likely, have not changed at all but, rather, are in a reactive mode by responding to your difficult situation by “grabbing at straws.” There is nothing really wrong with this. However, these changes usually lack staying power because they are born out of reactivity. You and your …